• Create a Safety Plan: Outline steps for safely leaving, including where you will go and how you will get there. Include a backup plan in case your first option is not viable.

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• Save Money: If possible, save money through a new account, a trusted friend, coworker or family member, or keep cash hidden in a safe place.

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• Prepare an Emergency Bag: Pack a bag with essential items such as identification, birth certificates, social security cards, medications, cash, credit cards, clothing, and important documents.

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• Secure Important Documents: Make copies of important documents such as IDs, birth certificates, social security cards, medical records, and legal papers. Store them in a safe place. Gather any police records. CPS may get involved so it’s to your benefit to have these records available.

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• Collect Evidence: Document instances of abuse by keeping a journal, taking photos of injuries, and saving threatening messages. This can be helpful for legal proceedings.

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• Contact Trusted Individuals: Inform a trusted friend or family member of your plan. Arrange for a safe place to stay if needed.

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• Know Your Legal Rights: Research your legal rights regarding protective orders, child custody, and financial support. Consult with a lawyer if possible.

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• Arrange for Shelter: Contact local shelters and confirm availability. You must call daily as vacancy changes each day. Keep a list of emergency contacts and addresses handy.

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• Plan for Your Children and Pets: Contact School Counselor and obtain school records incase you relocate outside of your area.  Some shelters accommodate pets or can refer you to pet-friendly options.

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• Stay Vigilant and Patient: Leaving a domestic violence situation takes time and persistence. Again, contact shelters daily, as availability changes regularly. Hotels can become expensive but it is an option.

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